Mental well-being suits us all

DR JOHN STEYTLER

Mental health is a subject which we are only starting to scratch the surface of in Namibia and it is not talked about a lot. In fact, not to single out Namibia, there are very few places in the world where healthy, open and frank discussions about mental health take place. However, in our country it seems more of a taboo subject than in many others, especially amongst men. Women talk and share their feelings and emotional state of mind a lot more freely. We men just tend to grunt and move on. Pushing your feelings down and not dealing with them is the worst way of approaching your mental well-being.

Even before Covid-19 became an issue; people faced stressful events, issues and socio-economic challenges every day. The pandemic has put mental health and awareness on the agenda for everyone. As humanity we were forced into living in a way that is not conducive to a positive mindset. The lack of touch, the lack of interaction, the lack of connection, the lack of daily routine has tipped the scales on our delicately balanced lives and mental health and not in a good way.

Mental health challenges are often spoken about as if they are something that others must deal with and suffer from. Certain people seem immune, but no one is, they are just better at hiding it. I personally at various stages in my life and career experienced spells of anxiety and even depression. The sooner that people realise this, the better. Many people put on a brave face, dismiss the problems that they have or try and make them go away through self-medication with alcohol, drugs, or pills. They make it look as if outwardly nothing is wrong. The inner turmoil that everyone faces should not be bottled up, which is something I have learned through personal experience.

But, how do you access help if you’ve never done so before, especially considering it is not something that is spoken about? Where do you turn? The internet offers some pointers, but the sheer volume of information leaves people feeling even more confused. A strong support structure in the form of friends and family really helps. Sometimes you need a professional, though. A psychologist who can assist in shaping those thoughts and redressing the mental health balance. I have seen a psychologist on more than one occasion when was challenged with difficult questions in life. I must admit that I was scared what people and my family would think if I saw a “shrink”. But at the end it was not a bad experience, and I am glad that I reached out for assistance.

It is not a process that has a beginning and an end; we must embrace the notion of mental wellness in much the same way as we have embraced the idea of working on our physical wellness.

During this time when mental health awareness is on the agenda, it is my hope and desire that we can start a discussion in Namibia, motivate people to examine their mental health and be healthy individuals mentally as well as physically. There should be no stigma surrounding seeking assistance. It can do wonders for your work and life balance and for your general well-being.

We must also be mindful of the challenges that people go through at work and in their home lives, and realise that not everyone is built the same. Be kind to each other and check in on your friends, family and co-workers. Make it a habit and lend a listening ear; a simple sign of support can mean so much. I am reminded daily that we do not know the battles that other people are going through. An encouraging word or gesture can do so much to uplift fellow Namibians during this time of Covid and economic hardship.

* Dr John Steytler wrote this in his personal capacity.

How to impart financial wisdom to the next generationFinancial confidence is developed at a young age – here’s how you can help.

One of the best gifts parents or guardians can give their children is an understanding of money. How to earn it, value it, save it and spend it (wisely).

“Without a working knowledge of money, it is extraordinarily difficult to do well in life,” says Sam X Renick, co-creator of Sammy Rabbit, in an article for Forbes. “Money is central to transacting life, day-in and day-out. Where we live, what we eat, the clothes we wear, the car we drive, health care, education, child-rearing, gift giving, vacations, entertainment, heat, air-conditioning, insurance—you name it, money is involved.”

Here are three ways to help shape children’s financial literacy:

1. Teach them the importance of earning money

Whether it’s setting up an outdoor bake sale in your neighbourhood park, or rewarding your kids financially for completing certain chores (feeding the pets, hanging up the washing and the like), teaching them how to earn money – and why it’s important to be able to earn an income – is powerful.

2. Teach them how to budget and save

Learning how to manage funds once you have earned them is a fundamental part of financial literacy. Sit down with your kids and ask them about the things they’ll need (want) money for that month – it could be tuck shop money once a week, buying a new book and going on a fun outing; then explain to them how they need to use the money they have earned to budget for the things they want in the month. If they don’t have enough for everything, they must decide what they’ll rather have the following month. If something they want is really pricey – like a bicycle or a Lego set – explain to them that they’ll need to save, and how to do so. This is also a very necessary lesson in delayed gratification – that saving for something worthwhile is worth it.

3. Teach them about credit and debt

Children pick up on everything – and they have no doubt seen you swiping your ‘magic’ card while out at the shops. It’s important for you to tell them how a bank card works, and even more significantly, what is credit, what you use it for, and how – if not used correctly – it can leave you in a really bad spot (debt).